What is Love? (Baby Don’t Hurt Me. Don’t Hurt Me. No More.)

Posted on September 21, 2014


Hello, lovelies. ♥

I am taking an online Human Sexuality class (which a friend has chosen to believe is really just me surfing the interwebs for porn. You know who you are. This one’s for you. *smirk*). In one of the latest discussions, my teacher asked what love is and what factors contribute to falling in love. She wanted our opinions, not for us to demonstrate our knowledge of the subject. “I want to know what you, as a person, think and feel about this issue,” she said.

     Considering this is the first time in a long while that I have written anything (burnout bested me), I decided to post my (short) response here as well. I miss my WordPress community and thought that maybe, just maybe, you might miss me too. 🙂 So here you have it…. My thoughts on love:


Being in love is when you can’t imagine living without someone.  This person is the last thing you think about when you drift off to sleep and the first thought that pops up when you wake.  You want to spend every moment you have with this person, now and forever.  Your heart beats faster when you’re with them.  The whole world is in HD, as opposed to the Technicolor life you used to live before finding such a sensational creature.  Love makes you a crazy person and many times, you act like a damn fool.  But you don’t care.  The only thing that matters is this connection between you and this embodiment of perfection.  You want to know everything there is to know about them.  Every new experience with them is like a Parkour run, even if it’s just a trip to the grocery store.  Falling in love is spontaneous, unintentional and sometimes inconvenient.  It is happenstance.  One can’t just go out one day with the goal of falling in love and come home with their heart full.  Love is chemistry.  Not just the actual chemicals that go along with attraction; pheromones, dopamine, serotonin, etc.; but the chemistry you feel when your personalities “click”.  The chemistry you feel when you can stay up all night, being deeply invested in conversations like being better than the penguins and how ahead-of-its-time The X-Files was. Love is a mixture of chemistry, attraction and similarities.

  *I’d also like to add that love goes deeper than adrenaline butterflies.  This is mutual love that comes with time spent in a relationship.  Love is comfort.  Comfort with another soul that you can “just be yourself” without worry of being rejected.  Comfort with yourself that you are beautiful/handsome to someone.  It inspires confidence and deep trust.  It is warm and fuzzy and meaningful and beautiful.

     I would love to hear your input on what love is and what you feel the factors are that contribute to falling in love. Is it chemical? Biological? Destiny? Magic? How do you know when you are in love?